So, after yesterday’s incredibly long post, I decided to post a shorter entry, present day, to kind of mix things up.
In the past week, I started following two new bloggers and I found their stories incredibly interesting. One of them, sort of sitting on the edge of my seat waiting to see what was going to happen next, interesting. They are “other women,” both married themselves, and both cheating with married men. I’m not sure how I found their blogs, they may have started following me first? I don’t know, or I can’t remember. Anyway, even though each had only posted a few entries, they both suddenly went off-line. Poof, their blogs are gone. I am sad about this. I really and genuinely wanted to read more about them, and their lives, and how they found themselves loving (or just loving on) married men, even though both women are married. Does this happen often? People start blogs and then abandon them after a week? Maybe they have regrets? Or fear their spouse will find it. I don’t know. I wish I did.
Since I found out about my husband’s cheating, I have often thought about his “other women.” How did it all begin? Why did they agree to extra-marital, covert relationships? What are their lives like? What did they really want from Blue Eyes? Did they think he would marry them? Did they just want sex? I now have answers to most of those questions in the case of my husband and his women, and I frankly do not find the stories that interesting. I will probably share my version of those relationships in a future post (which might be more interesting than the real thing, I tend to have quite the imagination), but these other women bloggers had really compelling stories. I want more… We all have unique stories, and whether you are a cheating husband and you have no remorse, or you are a soccer mom prostitute selling your body to make ends meet, or you are a wife whose husband actually does not want to have sex and you happened upon the man of your dreams, but both of you are, unfortunately, married, or you are the mistress and you love threesomes, or whatever. I like to read about real people. Real people and their stories are incredibly interesting. I know there are a lot of betrayed spouses and I can totally relate to their pain and their struggle, and it is nice not to feel so alone anymore, but I want to hear all the stories.
I do comment on these blogs sometimes, but I think I am very respectful. Just because you may be a cheating spouse, doesn’t mean I have the right to judge and be rude to you on your own blog. I won’t be. Do I believe people should be honest in their marriages and give all parties a chance to have a say on who their spouse is having sex with, or becoming emotionally attached too? Well, yeah, but I am not naive enough (and I wasn’t before I found out about my husband’s cheating) to think that that will ever happen. All people are fallible, and being open and honest is not how affairs begin. I also really appreciate the bloggers who are open minded and allow comments by people who are on the other side of things. I tried to follow a “mistress” blog and she rejected my request. I tried a nice respectful comment so she could see that I wasn’t hostile, but she rejected that as well. Fine. I don’t have to be “blogger friends” with everyone, but I do miss those two particular bloggers.
I hope they decide to revisit the blogging community one of these days. If I want to hear their story so bad, I know there have got to be a lot of others who are interested as well. Please come back…