I realize there will be no scientific analysis here. I am merely throwing out something that has been rattling around in my brain for quite some time. Maybe a discussion will ensue. I hope so. How do betrayed spouses decide whether to stay or go. What are all the factors, realizing each of us has … Continue reading Is age a factor
Marriage is challenging no matter how you slice it. All couples have disagreements, arguments if you will. There will often be money issues and potentially child rearing challenges. Some believe in love at first sight, some nurture the love over many months or years. My guess is those of us who hadn't been hurt prior … Continue reading This is betrayal
I have learned that in order to protect myself from pain, there are numerous relationships in my life for which I need to set boundaries. The first relationship was with my sister who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder with Bi-Polar Tendencies. Yeah, that's a mouthful. She is my younger sister by five and a half … Continue reading Boundaries
These days... I book expensive travel. Simple as that. I used to book travel so that our little family could spend time together. Blue Eyes often was either working away from home or traveled a lot for business when our children were little. For quite a while he was away from home 20-23 days of … Continue reading Guess what I do when I’m really pissed off
I sent something very similar to the above to my husband very early on in our healing. I asked him to think before he spoke. A lot of times he didn't speak at all. I did all the talking and it was oh so frustrating. I cried out my truth, my pain, my agony every … Continue reading Cheap studio apartment for one, please
This is NOT a recap post about what is different in my life now versus prior to discovery of my husband's betrayal and secret life. That would be one bloody long post. Been there, done that. No, this is a post about my health. I haven't really posted about my health in a very long … Continue reading What’s different now
Two years ago I asked Blue Eyes to write a letter to the other woman as part of his ninth step. For reasons that have been discussed many times on my blog the letter was not and will never be sent to the other woman. I do believe this letter catapulted my healing in a … Continue reading The letter
Disclaimer: I took two dance classes and a stretching class this past Saturday, then took two very long walks, and now my right knee is absolutely screaming at me. Exercise is critical to my continued health goals. Damn I HATE being injured and grounded. It pisses me off. So here goes... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eiDiKwbGfIY I'm not sure … Continue reading Days like this
I've done it again. I have to say this is one of the main reasons I don't follow a lot of blogs. I was reading a blog by a betrayed spouse and I looked down her 'Blogs I read' list (of course this is absolutely 100% my own fault) and noticed multiple blogs written by … Continue reading But why?
Things were going along so well, and then someone had to go and fuck it up. This post is not really about sex addiction. To sum things up, shit happens no matter how adept I believe I am at avoiding it. And, my life's not perfect (I know, I know—no one’s is) but I have … Continue reading Wait, what just happened?