A blog follower sent me this quote the other day through Instagram. The message she sent with it simply said, "I love her." I have never met the blog follower, but I consider her a friend. Some friendships start out a bit tumultuous, as this friendship did. The follower didn't believe in sex addiction and … Continue reading Do better
Month: October 2019
Mind blown 🤯
POST #500 As I was responding to a comment by Spouse of a Sex Addict from my last post, it triggered a memory from arbitration. As mentioned, arbitration week was hell. We listened to the contractor on our beach house construction project lie, repeatedly. He spoke softly and gently and made it look like he … Continue reading Mind blown 🤯
It still happens
As previously mentioned, yesterday was Blue Eyes' Birthday. We're on vacation. I knew he would need to do some work on this trip because we had arbitration last week, which put us both behind, AND, he can't take a 10-day vacation these days without working. Sad to some, not sad to us. We're short handed … Continue reading It still happens
Beautiful places
Today is Blue Eyes' Birthday and we are on the beautiful Hawaiian island of Kauai. As a Birthday treat for both BE and The Peacemaker (his birthday is Friday), I booked a scenic flight around the island for the three of us. A few years ago Blue Eyes and I saw the dramatic Na Pali … Continue reading Beautiful places
Over, but not done
We made it through. Four gruesome days of arbitration with the builder of our beach house. It was simply, AWFUL. So many lies and accusations flying around the room, my head was spinning. During their testimony, the other side, both the former owner (contractor on our job) and new owner (foreman on our job) were … Continue reading Over, but not done
Precipice
He's there, right now, sitting at the edge of his own sanity. He's unable to hide it, or even deny it. It's not coming from nowhere. It's muscle memory. It's those feelings of having been here before. Not in this exact place, but something, somewhere similar. A bustling city, a lonely hotel room, life crashing … Continue reading Precipice
This too shall pass
In and amongst everything else going on in our lives, we are in arbitration with the builder of our beach house. Yes, THAT beach house. Yes, the house was theoretically "completed" nearly THREE years ago. Yes, it is a NIGHTMARE. Almost six years ago, Blue Eyes agreed that it was time we owned a beach … Continue reading This too shall pass
Five Years
WordPress just wished me a Happy Anniversary. It's been five years since I started this blog. This story began with a phone call. That phone call was from a woman who wanted to punish me for my husband's bad acts. Discovery Day: January 11, 2014. That's the day I started ferociously journaling, attempting to off … Continue reading Five Years