A friend posted this quote on Facebook a couple days ago:
“Love is kind.
Anything less isn’t love at all.”
Which made me think of this old Time Magazine story. I think I have linked to this article before, but I couldn’t find it so I’m posting it again.
The article titled: We Are Defining Love the Wrong Way, starts like this: It is time to change the meaning of the word “love.”
Love is more than what one feels.
After years spent speaking with couples before, during and after marriage; and of talking to parents and children struggling with their relationships, I am convinced of the partiality of the definition. Love should be seen not as a feeling but as an enacted emotion. To love is to feel and act lovingly.
The feeling must be wedded to the deed.
Realizing no one is perfect, and we can’t all be good all of the time, I do truly believe that what was missing in my husband was a true understanding of the word love. Because of how he was raised, I don’t think he truly understands what it means to love another human being. It’s not just three words to be said about how he thinks he feels about me (or someone else) in a particular moment, but indeed is how he acts towards me on the worst of his days. If I am truly the love of his life, then he will behave lovingly towards me even when he doesn’t feel like it. He won’t lie to me, or try and turn his insecurities around on me. He won’t ignore me or conveniently forget about me because he is “busy” or “stressed” or “tired” or anything.
This is the kind of love I have given to him all along: honest, unconditional, selfless love. I deserve it in return. We all do.