Yes, to this:
“80% of women don’t cry, scream, or argue when they’re hurting, they go silent. Not because they don’t care, but because they’ve already said everything they needed to say and it changed nothing.
Silence is her last language. It’s what she says when she realizes her words have fallen on deaf ears too many times. When she tried to explain how she felt, tried to ask for better, tried to fight for the relationship, and all she got back was defensiveness, gaslighting, or empty promises.
At some point, a woman stops talking not because she’s fine but because she’s finished.
You know she’s truly hurting when she starts pulling back without saying a word. No more checking in, no more long texts, no more trying to make you understand. She’ll be in the same room, but a thousand miles away. She’ll answer you, but with one-word replies. She’ll still love you but now that love has a guard around it.
See, women express pain differently. Most don’t want to argue, they want peace. But when they realize that loving you costs them their peace, the silence comes. And it’s not the cold kind. It’s the kind that comes with heartbreak, with exhaustion, with disappointment. It’s the kind of silence that says: I cared so deeply, and now I’m tired.
And here’s the part many men don’t realize until it’s too late: silence is a woman’s goodbye spoken in slow motion. She might still be there physically, but emotionally? She’s already packing up pieces of herself. And by the time you notice her absence, she’s already gotten used to the quiet.
So if a woman you care about goes silent, don’t ignore it. Don’t assume she’s just being dramatic. Pay attention. Silence is rarely empty, it’s filled with everything she wanted to say but gave up on saying. And once a woman gives up on trying to be understood. She starts learning how to live without needing you at all.”
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try not to cry on my rainbow 
So much has happened with your family! It sounds like you are adjusting to it all with grace. My kids are adjusting to the separation just fine for now but this is not a regular time of year as it’s summer holidays. When school starts back at the start of Feb, that will be the real test. Kids are teenagers now so have an understanding of what it all means. SWxo
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What are you and Blue Eyes up to these days? The kids? SWxo
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Well, we’re still together. Blue Eyes’ ADD has hit an all time high, or I’m just so burnt out. So many compromises but I’m not miserable. Our oldest child born a boy is now a 34 year old trans woman getting her PhD at NYU. Lives in Brooklyn. Our younger son is doing great, turned 32, lives at home, works for our company. My chauffeur back and forth to our Southern California house in the sunshine. I’m basically retired from our business and handle the two rental houses. Hoping to get us all down to California in the next 5 years. How old are your kids? How do you think they will handle the separation?
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I’ve decided men are stupid. SWxo
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Stupid is actually a really nice word for what most of them are. Cruel is another. Wishing strength. 🤗
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Gosh, this resonates with me so much. Thanks for sharing, Kat. SWxo
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You are very welcome. How can we get it, so deeply, and yet they don’t get it all. 😢
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Yes. This. Sending love, ad always xxx
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Lots of love back… and we keep moving forward. Slowly, and perhaps not so surely, but moving nonetheless. xo
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