I’m not sure what’s going on with me or why writing hasn’t been a priority in my life, but alas, I am back and with the goal of writing more often because, I do enjoy it.
I meant to do this post yesterday, and the day before, and nearly every day before that for…. months?
This post is not and never was going to be about discovery of my husband’s secret life, and it really won’t be, but I just scheduled an online credit card payment and when it showed as posted on January 11th, today being January 11th, I can’t NOT mention it. Today is anniversary #8 of the day a woman called my phone to let me know she had been in a long term relationship with my husband, traveled the world with him, yada yada yada, YAWN! I was shocked and saddened then, now, I’m over it.
It took a while, but I rarely think of that woman anymore. I do think about my husband’s sex addiction, but in the context of who he is, my partner of the past nearly 38 years, a dyslexic, attention deficit, disorganized, ungrounded, sex addict who also happens to be intelligent, funny, interesting, talented, driven, and mostly loving and kind. How he treats me matters, a lot, but his sex addiction is his burden to carry, not mine.
So back to my regularly scheduled programming. When I last wrote I was a few days into reminiscing a very lovely birthday road trip Blue Eyes and I took back in May. I plan to finish that recap in my next post. It’s time to move along, because I just completed a very similar road trip and I am now, very blissfully I might add, enjoying a month long sojourn in my happy place: Ojai, California. I want to retire here and am currently plotting how to make that happen! I’m renting an inexpensive, adorable little airbnb bungalow studio in a very quiet part of town. To be real though, the whole town is lovely and peaceful full of parks and citrus orchards and horse ranches, surrounded by beautiful mountains and yet about 20 minutes from the Pacific Ocean. Did I mention the weather? 70+ degrees and sunny, every day, in January!
I’m drawing, and painting, and writing, and hiking, and enjoying my “me” time. Technically this was all Blue Eyes’ idea, and it was a fantastic idea! My regular life is all waiting for me back in Portland. This is just a little taste of where I want to land one of these days!