Since our blogs are formatted a little differently, I'm not re-blogging, but I am sharing an article that Rac (Life After His Affair) linked to on her blog this morning. https://thoughtcatalog.com/kirsten-j-robinson/2017/05/before-you-cheat-on-her-know-this/ This piece is beautifully written and will speak, in some way or another, to all of us who have been betrayed. But, the author … Continue reading Introspection
Purging
Yesterday afternoon I looked at my Instagram account and realized I had nearly 3,000 photos posted. What? Too many photos. I went back to the beginning and started deleting. When I first loaded the Instagram App and began using it, I had no idea what I was doing. There were multiple pictures of the same … Continue reading Purging
Dear Addiction, This is Goodbye
I'm sharing here a blog post written by an addict. The words, Vanessa's adaptation of them, all of them, mesmerized me and will resonate with me for a very long time. Addiction is a powerful beast. But I have to be totally honest. As I was reading the words, I was picturing Blue Eyes' last … Continue reading Dear Addiction, This is Goodbye
My relationship with s-anon
What is my relationship with S-Anon? Well, basically, I don't have one. In a perfect world my husband would have worked with his therapist, told the therapist the truth about his secret sex life, all of it, and then worked with the therapist on a way to more safely inform me of Blue Eyes' sexual … Continue reading My relationship with s-anon
Happy blog anniversary to me
Thanks WordPress for letting me know. It's been three years! Wow. I'm so glad I have had this venue to talk things out. Indeed I do feel like I have been through a rough storm, but I'm not going to drown. I'm doing okay. Good even. Thanks for being there for me. ❤
Hiding behind ‘sex addiction’
I have seen this phrase, or some form of it, many times, written on blogs, in articles, and even in books. I have heard it spoken, by sex addiction deniers, by partners, and by therapists. I understand. Those two words, separate or together, seem to harbor feelings that take us to places like fear, trauma, … Continue reading Hiding behind ‘sex addiction’
Rock bottom
My last post, prompted by an article in which the author did very little to differentiate sex addiction from sex offending (criminal behavior, pedophilia, sex with a minor, etc...), elicited some interesting conversation in the comments. It also got me and Blue Eyes talking quite a bit about this subject of sex addicts and their … Continue reading Rock bottom
There are no villains here
I was recently reading an article written by a woman who is a life coach and who has spent some time counseling victims of sex crimes. The title of her article was, literally, 'Sex Addiction.' That's it. She didn't talk about the difference between an offender and an addict. She did talk about addiction in … Continue reading There are no villains here
Feeling good
These past few days have been amazing. I am feeling good. I started up eating healthy, again, cutting out a lot of the bad carbs and red meat, and fatty dairy, again. Blue Eyes and I have been doing well, together at the beach house for the past few days, having fun with the dogs. … Continue reading Feeling good
On being the wife of a sex addict
After writing my last post, two things happened. First, my husband wrote an entry on his own blog talking about misery and that he is an addict and recovery is hard, and a choice, and that he is powerless and when he acknowledges his powerlessness, he is better able to see his way out of … Continue reading On being the wife of a sex addict
